"As a couple, you're either fighting together or against each other...no compromise." This is what I've always believed and tell others constantly..."if she's not with you, she's against you.
Of course I'm not talking about the ordinary, everyday disagreement that naturally and normally happen within a relationship, not at all. But there's nothing sexier than a man defending his woman against anything and anyone who tries to disrespect or come between the two. Not only does it make a woman feel secure and safe, it makes her feel as if she's his priority.
This was one of the earliest things I learned in a romantic relationship. I can remember, as a very young woman, the guy I was dating at the time was sitting with me on the edge of a bed and a roommate came in and playfully swatted at me, causing me to almost tip over from my cross-legged position. My then-boyfriend quickly jumped up and grabbed for me. I actually saw panic in his eyes as he reached me and righted my position....it absolutely melted my heart. This incident cemented the desire to want ...no, require the man I'm with to always be there for me, keeping and protecting me from outside influences.
Even when it's not a physical situation of support, his emotional support is just as, if not more, important. Nothing feels safer than when I know my actions won't be judged, criticized or argued against in defense of someone else...or anything that would place me on an uneven playing field with the one who should be my main support system, my team. Nothing.
Sometimes love shows it's head in a broad, loud way, and sometimes in subtle ways, actions. Look for that kind of love, the kind that not only screams but also whispers as your support system in the background.. and don't settle for anything less. <3
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