Recognize and Trust Your Intuition!

Sometimes we go through something that at the other end of it, we’re less trusting…not just less trusting of others but of ourselves as well.  We are hesitant to rely on our intuition once we feel we’ve “allowed” ourselves to be tricked or played or whatever you want to call it.

We wonder if we can trust our judgement of others because, if not for our flawed judgement, how in hell did we not see him/her for who they really were, right?  The thing is, we DID see it.  We just chose to make excuses for someone else’s bad behavior because the excuses made US feel better.

Think about it…when you look back on any perceived failed relationship, every single sign of “assclown-ery” was there and WE SAW IT!  Some of us even had conversation about it with ourselves to convince us we may be mistaken.

So instead of immediately acting on the red flags we saw from the beginning, we decided to overthink it to stay in what could POSSIBLY be “The” relationship; to avoid giving up something that MAY be good.    Come on, you can admit it, we’ve all done it.

Now, it’s time to LEARN from all of the past lessons.  Time to recognize the symbols and signs of things that are not good for us…signs that YOU ARE ALREADY FAMILIAR WITH!

From that sinking feeling in your belly, to the heavy drag of insecurity, to the secret dose of shame.  We don’t just know it, we feel it. 

I have discovered one simple exercise to help me recognize and identify the signs of maltreatment.  And that’s simply to do this…  Put yourself in that person’s shoes and THINK about what would make YOU respond and/or act the way they do/did.  What type of mindset would YOU have to be in to do what is being done to you by the other person. 

Here’s an example of what I mean.  You’ve called this person two or three times, left a message, and sent a text (which, by the way, you sent because you made up an excuse as to why he/she hadn’t responded to your ten calls and voice messages).  When you put yourself in the absentee’s shoes, you will know if someone you were interested in called you, you would call them back as soon as you could and if you couldn’t call them, you would send a quick text to let them know what was going on and why you couldn’t talk at that time.  However, if you’re NOT interested, you may respond exactly as he/she has responded….not at all.

I promise you, if you HONESTLY do this exercise every time you feel any of those highlighted phrases up there in paragraph 6, you will be that much closer to recognizing and moving towards making the right decisions for YOU!!