This was about the time it all started...it was a Thursday morning and their dad had just left for work to a job over an hour away. I was sooo excited because, after almost 9 months, I was finally going to meet them, face-to-face! So I got out of bed when I felt the first contractions and excitedly started gathering what I may need for my trip to the hospital. That's when the contractions got stronger! But no worries, having given birth once before, I figured what had worked to relieve the pain that time would surely work this time...right?? So, with a self-serving smirk on my face and the grace of an over-sized yoga instructor, I proceeded to gently drop to the floor and press the heel of my foot against my pelvic bone. Trust me, it's not as hard as it sounds...
With the smirk still on my face, I wait for the pain to subside... um hmm, it's going to be subsiding any minute now, soon, heehee, ....ok, uh, pain... subside... SUBSIDE!!!! IT DIDN'T WORK!!! Ok, ok, don't panic Trena, let's try something else...except.... I DON'T HAVE ANOTHER BACK-UP PLAN FOR THE PAIN!!
Panic started... Now ya'll, back then, I still worried about what folks would think so I hesitated in calling the ambulance... Instead, I called my then-husband, who'd made it to work by now....over an hour away, to say, yeah, you may need to come on back. He goes, "Ok, do I have time to finish one project?" Mind you, gauging from the experience of when I'd had my son three years prior, that seemed like a reasonable request and as I accessed the pain level, I decided to be brave and said, "Yeah, just come immediately afterwards!"
Oh boy..... as soon as I hung the phone up, it felt like a Predator was just beginning to walk up my driveway... Let me explain this...When I had my son and was in full blown labor pains, in an attempt to "remember" the pain of childbirth to help in my future decision to ever do it again, I had to compare an event to the pain. One comparison was of a giant can of string beans, you know, the extra large cans, dropping on the crease of my big toe and the other comparison was of a Predator, from the Arnold Schwartzenegger movie, pulling my spine, as he did to his victims in the movie, out of my body. And this mo-fo was at the proverbial door, ringing the doorbell!
What seemed like hours, and it probably was a couple, the hubster walks in the door and we load up to head to the hospital. Ya'll, bless his heart... it felt like he was driving just slow enough to get fired from driving Ms Daisy! When we finally reached the hospital, I was greeted by two of everything...two doctors, two nurses, two PAs, etc...they had a team for each of the babies and once again drawing from my previous experience, I immediately asked for the two anesthesiologists! I wanted my pain meds and I wanted them NOW!!
After taking the needle in the back like a pro, everything was made right again. *Sidenote: I do want to interject here to say I imagine I now know what a junkie looking for his next high feels like... When I noticed my pain medicine bag getting empty, I immediately started fidgeting and looking around, inquiring about the whereabouts of my "pusher man" (the anesthesiologist); didn't matter to me, Ms Nurse Lady, that I had about a half hour before I would feel any more pain, I WANTED MY DRUGS AND I WANTED THEM PRONTO!
When it was time to meet these two little babies and the doctor told me I could start pushing now, I nonchalantly went through the motions (couldn't feel a thing from my waist down and that's exactly the way I wanted it!), out came Baby A...Miss Alexis. Oh, what a beautiful sight to see...a brave little head with a jet black wrap, aka, her hair was swirled around her scalp like a tiny representation of the galaxy. The doctor had to tap the bottom of her feet to get the acknowledging cry out of her.
Watching to make sure the PA property tagged her, you know, making sure he put the band they place on patients to identify them (there were stories of baby-swapping going on back then), we started work on Baby B. Now, here's where Alyssa comes into the picture, causing drama for absolutely NO reason. This little lady decides she's not going to come out after all and heads back up towards my breastplate!! The staff is actually watching her do this from the sonogram screens! My primary doctor was a little Hispanic lady, about 4 feet nothing, but she was handling things like a champ! She said, "Ok, don't push until I say so but when I do say so, push with all you got! I'm going to reach up there and get her!" Alright then....And that's exactly what she proceeded to do...reached right in, grab Ms Alyssa by the ankles and pulled her tail out! No feet tapping needed for this one, she made her displeasure of being disturbed in her plans quite known!
She came out with a similar wrap to Alexis, except hers was light brown in color. Another beautiful sight to see... I know my heart must have burst and re-glued itself back together with all the joy I had in there for my babies.
And 23 years later, to this day, these young ladies continue to bring me so much pride and joy....And I thank God for blessing me and trusting me to raise these two beautiful souls.
Happy birthday Ladies! I love you with all that I am. <3
Friday, June 15, 2018
Thursday, June 14, 2018
Trips, Journeys, and Memoirs
Hey ya'll!
Well, I just got back from vacation on Saturday and it was AMAZING! It was a 6-day cruise to Cozumel, Grand Cayman, Belize, and Mahogany Bay. The weather was perfect, the company was great and I GOT ENGAGED!!
First, I'll like to tell you how it happened... During our visit to Cozumel, Mexico, we were all going in and out of several stores, checking out the wares in each one and taking advantage of the air conditioning wherever we could find one. *heehee While perusing one of the jewelry stores, I begin the process of looking for my birthstone in a ring. While taking forever to find anything that was unique enough to keep my attention, Baby just casually says, "Why don't you marry me?", I looked up from the display case and say, "Just like that, huh?" he replied, "Yeah" and I replied back with 'Yeah". Romantic, huh? lol.. Well, maybe not in the normal sense of the word but this was so... US! And it was perfect for me. He later informed me he'd meant to wait until his birthday, a month away, to ask but .... I guess he was moved. And I loved that movement! Next stop, although I'm still partial on getting finger tattoos myself, I guess we'll be shopping for an actual engagement ring instead of a birthstone placeholder. We'll see....
I've semi-announced it, on Facebook of all places, because I think I've been in a little bit of shock. I want to scream it out to the world. Because I love this man and he gets me on a level that still surprises me. We have a few things to get together before the knots are officially tied and as for the wedding and reception, I, being a certified event planner (and a frugal human being) am planning the majority of it all. I want to be all hands in, although I know many warn against this, but I'm a seasoned individual and feel at this moment, on June 14th, 2018 at 3:06p, EDT, that I can do it without any major arteries popping. I also have this burning desire to prove a wedding and reception can be quite lovely without being a major expense!
I will be documenting it all along the way too...pictures, mindset, processes, etc! By the end of all the planning, I want to be able to present YOU with a tangible guide, to be of use to you and/or someone you know!
In the midst of all the excitement, it was suggested I write my memoir...and I absolutely LOVE the idea of it! So, I will also be starting that endeavor, sharing who I am and how I got to be where I am today. Telling all about "knowing" things without quite understanding to do so was not normal; to almost getting kidnapped in the deep south (where I was born and raised) by an elderly Caucasian male driving a light blue pickup truck; through time spent oversees in exotic places during the beginning of my military career; through a 23-year marriage, infidelity and forgiveness; dating again after 40 and now, at 51, being an Intuitive Transformation Love Coach, about to jump the broom once again! Whew.... yeah.
Stay tuned, heck...go ahead and subscribe so I'll know you're here! It's going to be a trip as I go back to come forward. But I look forward to the journey. I'd love it if you came along with me. <3
Well, I just got back from vacation on Saturday and it was AMAZING! It was a 6-day cruise to Cozumel, Grand Cayman, Belize, and Mahogany Bay. The weather was perfect, the company was great and I GOT ENGAGED!!
First, I'll like to tell you how it happened... During our visit to Cozumel, Mexico, we were all going in and out of several stores, checking out the wares in each one and taking advantage of the air conditioning wherever we could find one. *heehee While perusing one of the jewelry stores, I begin the process of looking for my birthstone in a ring. While taking forever to find anything that was unique enough to keep my attention, Baby just casually says, "Why don't you marry me?", I looked up from the display case and say, "Just like that, huh?" he replied, "Yeah" and I replied back with 'Yeah". Romantic, huh? lol.. Well, maybe not in the normal sense of the word but this was so... US! And it was perfect for me. He later informed me he'd meant to wait until his birthday, a month away, to ask but .... I guess he was moved. And I loved that movement! Next stop, although I'm still partial on getting finger tattoos myself, I guess we'll be shopping for an actual engagement ring instead of a birthstone placeholder. We'll see....
I've semi-announced it, on Facebook of all places, because I think I've been in a little bit of shock. I want to scream it out to the world. Because I love this man and he gets me on a level that still surprises me. We have a few things to get together before the knots are officially tied and as for the wedding and reception, I, being a certified event planner (and a frugal human being) am planning the majority of it all. I want to be all hands in, although I know many warn against this, but I'm a seasoned individual and feel at this moment, on June 14th, 2018 at 3:06p, EDT, that I can do it without any major arteries popping. I also have this burning desire to prove a wedding and reception can be quite lovely without being a major expense!
I will be documenting it all along the way too...pictures, mindset, processes, etc! By the end of all the planning, I want to be able to present YOU with a tangible guide, to be of use to you and/or someone you know!
In the midst of all the excitement, it was suggested I write my memoir...and I absolutely LOVE the idea of it! So, I will also be starting that endeavor, sharing who I am and how I got to be where I am today. Telling all about "knowing" things without quite understanding to do so was not normal; to almost getting kidnapped in the deep south (where I was born and raised) by an elderly Caucasian male driving a light blue pickup truck; through time spent oversees in exotic places during the beginning of my military career; through a 23-year marriage, infidelity and forgiveness; dating again after 40 and now, at 51, being an Intuitive Transformation Love Coach, about to jump the broom once again! Whew.... yeah.
Stay tuned, heck...go ahead and subscribe so I'll know you're here! It's going to be a trip as I go back to come forward. But I look forward to the journey. I'd love it if you came along with me. <3
Friday, May 18, 2018
The Actions of Fear...
I see and hear this story so much...it makes me ask the question, "What is it REALLY about our black skin that you're so fearful of?"
We know there's a problem with police brutality but when "every day citizens" go out of their way to create such hate and animosity, it shows it's about more than just the law enforcers.
This is about those people who hide behind their doors, searching for activity so they can put action behind their hate and fear. They then peek out of peek-holes and between doorjambs observing the havoc they've reaped. Are you so miserable you feel you have to "share" in that misery? That your actions will make you feel "whole" somehow? Or are you so small-minded and inhumane you get a boner from seeing others harassed and miserable? What exactly are you scared of? Irrelevance? Having to face a hateful,insane past?
Some believe it's because of racism, and yes, definitely, that's a huge part of it. But to think you're supreme wouldn't place you in the position to fear or even be concerned about what those supposedly "beneath" you are doing. This type of action is more a portrayal of a scared, empty soul. Of someone who deep down inside feel as if THEY are the inferior being. When was the last time you've had someone from the royal family or even a mega star worry and wonder about someone living in the "regular" world? I'll wait...
You haven't. Because when one feels great, worrying about supposedly lesser things, don't usually happen...at lease not with the frequency of the things we see portrayed in this video and others similar. So what is it REALLY about? You fear the things you feel are stronger, smarter, can overpower you. What "boogie-man" was ever thought of as something you could overpower with ease? None. Nada.
So yes, it's much more than just racism and police brutality...although we know some of these same people serve within our law enforcement agencies. This is about weak, scared, miserable souls, who would rather remain in their hole than dig out to see the light. To see that we are all of the human race and EVERYONE deserves to be happy, even in the midst of struggling to gain happiness within ourselves.
The Actions of Fear...
REPOSTED ABOVE!!
I see and hear this story so much...it makes me ask the question, "What is it about our black skin that you're so fearful of?"
We know there's a problem with police brutality but when "every day citizens" go out their way to create such hate and animosity, it shows it's about more than just the law enforcers.
This is about those people who hide behind their doors, searching for activity so they can put action behind their hate/fear. And they then peek out peek-holes and between doorjambs observing the havoc they've reaped. Are you so miserable you feel you have to "share" in the misery? That your actions will make you feel "whole" somehow? Or are you so small-minded and inhumane you get a boner from seeing others miserable? What exactly are you scared of? Irrelevance? Having to face a hateful past?
Some believe it's because of racism, and yes, definitely, that's a huge part of it. But to think you're supreme wouldn't place you in the position to fear or even be concerned about what those supposedly "beneath" you are doing. This type of action is more a portrayal of a scared, empty soul. Of someone who deep down feel as if THEY are the inferior being. When was the last time you've had someone from the royal family or a mega star worry and wonder about someone living in the "regular" world? I'll wait....
You haven't. Because when one feels great, worrying about supposedly lesser things, don't happen. So what is it REALLY about? You fear the things you feel is stronger, smarter, can overpower you. What "boogie-man" was ever thought of as something you could overpower with ease? None. Nada. So yes, it's much more than just racism and police brutality...although we know those same people serve within our law enforcement agencies. This is about weak, scared, miserable souls, who would rather remain in their hole than dig out to see the light. To see that we are all of the human race and everyone deserves to be happy...even in the midst of struggling to gain happiness within ourselves.
We know there's a problem with police brutality but when "every day citizens" go out their way to create such hate and animosity, it shows it's about more than just the law enforcers.
This is about those people who hide behind their doors, searching for activity so they can put action behind their hate/fear. And they then peek out peek-holes and between doorjambs observing the havoc they've reaped. Are you so miserable you feel you have to "share" in the misery? That your actions will make you feel "whole" somehow? Or are you so small-minded and inhumane you get a boner from seeing others miserable? What exactly are you scared of? Irrelevance? Having to face a hateful past?
Some believe it's because of racism, and yes, definitely, that's a huge part of it. But to think you're supreme wouldn't place you in the position to fear or even be concerned about what those supposedly "beneath" you are doing. This type of action is more a portrayal of a scared, empty soul. Of someone who deep down feel as if THEY are the inferior being. When was the last time you've had someone from the royal family or a mega star worry and wonder about someone living in the "regular" world? I'll wait....
You haven't. Because when one feels great, worrying about supposedly lesser things, don't happen. So what is it REALLY about? You fear the things you feel is stronger, smarter, can overpower you. What "boogie-man" was ever thought of as something you could overpower with ease? None. Nada. So yes, it's much more than just racism and police brutality...although we know those same people serve within our law enforcement agencies. This is about weak, scared, miserable souls, who would rather remain in their hole than dig out to see the light. To see that we are all of the human race and everyone deserves to be happy...even in the midst of struggling to gain happiness within ourselves.
Thursday, March 22, 2018
Finding You Again...the Class
"I'm miserable, but...I'll just live this life out and make the most out of my NEXT life." I actually said this to myself...
I was in what looked like a happy relationship from the outside, but on the inside I was slowly dying. I'd gained more weight than I wanted, there were spaces in my home that went unattended. Not all of 'em...just spots of clutter and buildup. I'd always known a cluttered space meant there was a cluttered mind behind it but it's funny, I didn't even realize the clutter was there until one day I SAW it.
I'd even gotten to a point where I couldn't see my reflection in the mirror if I stood in a certain spot. No, not away from the mirror, just a certain spot where, if I stood there and looked at the mirror, I couldn't see my reflection. Now, you may say to yourself, "and...?", well, if I stood in that spot today, I'd be able to see it. Yeah....
I was in a relationship that was slowly killing my presence in the world. As a child I was always the one saving others, protecting the smaller or more afraid people from bullies, although I wasn't bigger than most but I guess my determination showed through the smaller stature. But here I was and no one was saving me.
I'm offering a class that details how I got to, wallowed in and then climbed out of this erasure of my life. I don't want anyone to go through what I went through and not have an escape; to not live every second of their life in expectation of more, more, more! More smiles, more travel, more gratitude, more happiness. My big, bold promise to you is, when you've completed this course, you will walk away with clarity, added confidence, and a new perspective.
Join me on 27 - 29 March 2018, as I take you on my journey of how I got to the other side! We will discover why you're stuck; the symptoms that may show up; and how to begin the climb out of stagnation.
Registration has already started for this 3-days of 30-minute live conference calls and I've priced it at only $27! Yeah, I'm practically giving it away but I wanted to offer THIS session at a price you couldn't say "NO" to. After this session, the price will go up but for now, the investment can't be beat!
If you're concerned the dates don't agree with your schedule, go ahead and purchase the course at this drop bottom price of ONLY $27 and catch the recording sessions, which will be emailed to you after each session! There will also be a Facebook Group created just for this course, for questions, insights, sharing.
If you're interested, you can purchase the class by clicking RIGHT HERE! The call-in information will be sent to you via the email you supply on your order form the day prior to the class. You will also get a digital version of my Love Journal, that you'll be able to download and use for the course.
Don't stay in a space of "merely existing" any longer. Join me on this journey to happiness; because the other side is BEAUTIFUL!!
Follow me on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/alomalifecoaching
I was in what looked like a happy relationship from the outside, but on the inside I was slowly dying. I'd gained more weight than I wanted, there were spaces in my home that went unattended. Not all of 'em...just spots of clutter and buildup. I'd always known a cluttered space meant there was a cluttered mind behind it but it's funny, I didn't even realize the clutter was there until one day I SAW it.
I'd even gotten to a point where I couldn't see my reflection in the mirror if I stood in a certain spot. No, not away from the mirror, just a certain spot where, if I stood there and looked at the mirror, I couldn't see my reflection. Now, you may say to yourself, "and...?", well, if I stood in that spot today, I'd be able to see it. Yeah....
I was in a relationship that was slowly killing my presence in the world. As a child I was always the one saving others, protecting the smaller or more afraid people from bullies, although I wasn't bigger than most but I guess my determination showed through the smaller stature. But here I was and no one was saving me.
I'm offering a class that details how I got to, wallowed in and then climbed out of this erasure of my life. I don't want anyone to go through what I went through and not have an escape; to not live every second of their life in expectation of more, more, more! More smiles, more travel, more gratitude, more happiness. My big, bold promise to you is, when you've completed this course, you will walk away with clarity, added confidence, and a new perspective.
Join me on 27 - 29 March 2018, as I take you on my journey of how I got to the other side! We will discover why you're stuck; the symptoms that may show up; and how to begin the climb out of stagnation.
Registration has already started for this 3-days of 30-minute live conference calls and I've priced it at only $27! Yeah, I'm practically giving it away but I wanted to offer THIS session at a price you couldn't say "NO" to. After this session, the price will go up but for now, the investment can't be beat!
If you're concerned the dates don't agree with your schedule, go ahead and purchase the course at this drop bottom price of ONLY $27 and catch the recording sessions, which will be emailed to you after each session! There will also be a Facebook Group created just for this course, for questions, insights, sharing.
If you're interested, you can purchase the class by clicking RIGHT HERE! The call-in information will be sent to you via the email you supply on your order form the day prior to the class. You will also get a digital version of my Love Journal, that you'll be able to download and use for the course.
Don't stay in a space of "merely existing" any longer. Join me on this journey to happiness; because the other side is BEAUTIFUL!!
Follow me on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/alomalifecoaching
Thursday, January 11, 2018
What I AM Saying is.....
I recently came off of a mini-staycation and one thing I realized is, early retirement is looking better and better with each and every passing day.
Not because I dislike my current 9 to 5 but because when you think about it all, we're simply cogs in the big 'merica factory. Think about it....even with a 6-digit salary, you're being taxed over a third of it and then with "mandatory paid bills", we lose even more, so in reality, with a $100,000 annual salary, after taxes, necessities and bills, you're making MUCH less to live on. That's not really too bad a thing but think about the number of folks actually hitting below that 6-figure goal. If you take in the amount of time you spend at work, the stress factor, commuting, etc... for the amount of money you're actually receiving, compared to fully living your life, your mind would be blown! lol...ok, I'm not saying all of this to make this sound hopeless but ...
Not because I dislike my current 9 to 5 but because when you think about it all, we're simply cogs in the big 'merica factory. Think about it....even with a 6-digit salary, you're being taxed over a third of it and then with "mandatory paid bills", we lose even more, so in reality, with a $100,000 annual salary, after taxes, necessities and bills, you're making MUCH less to live on. That's not really too bad a thing but think about the number of folks actually hitting below that 6-figure goal. If you take in the amount of time you spend at work, the stress factor, commuting, etc... for the amount of money you're actually receiving, compared to fully living your life, your mind would be blown! lol...ok, I'm not saying all of this to make this sound hopeless but ...
- what I AM saying is, the amount of money one can make shouldn't ever be the only factor to happiness in your life. There are many millionaires who are simply miserable.
- what I AM saying is, when your world is turned upside down in tragedy, the last thing you'll be thinking about is the cog where you spend more than half your life and the people there judging your every move.
- what I AM saying is, when you're 80+ and sitting on a rocking chair on your porch, I can guarantee you wont be thinking about the "he said, she said" BS or the fact you had a personal parking space or a fancy title.
- what I AM saying is, be grateful and joyful in the presence of your family, children, grandchildren and friends.
- what I AM saying is, take vacations and do things you haven't experienced or don't experience much. Be the only one on the dance floor and the first one in the buffet line.
- what I AM saying is compliment a stranger to make their day better, approach that love interest or help a struggling child learn to read.
- what I AM saying is, Dance, Sing, Run, Skip, Fall, Rise, Smile, LIVE your life to the fullest so when that day in the rocker does come, you can remember, smile and know your time here, in this space, was not in vain!
With Love. <3
Friday, January 5, 2018
Part 2 of 2, "Guide and Tips to Online Dating" Course
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