You Have Time...Really, You Do.

Hey y'all.  I just wanted to relay a conversation Baby (my man) and I had yesterday.  It was rather interesting and enlightening for me.  I hope you can get something out of it as well...

Yesterday he and I were talking and we landed upon this observation....

Even if you are at the age of 50, you've lived a decent lifetime in those years. Our life expectancy (barring accidents, murder) is around 80/85 years old, maybe more. If you think about it, even at 50, we still have a lifetime to "be", "do" what we were placed here to do. Think of all the years and how much we've accomplished, we've made it through, from birth to now, with even more years if you don't count the learning years of birth to 18!

The enlightenment is this...know, whatever your age, it's never too late to start!! And it's definitely too early to give up!!

Love y'all, good morning!!

Just ...Shut Up... Already!

What if ... we just shut up?


I mean, what if we just ignored all of the political mess that's thrown in our faces 24/7?  What if, whomever is considered your opposition, never got a response out of you?  Think about it...


A disagreement must have opposing entities.  What if we took away one (ourselves)?  Would it still be a disagreement?  If there's no one to argue with, can there still be an argument?


I've found when you ignore foolishness, it has a tendency to stop performing.  Come on, think about it...  A person who engages in an argument is in it to prove he/she is right.  And in order to prove it, they must refute all of your efforts and/or points.  What if you didn't give them a point to disprove?


What if we just ...shut up?

RHRN's "Month of Sundays" Broadcasts on "Self Love & Relationships"

This is the second and third broadcast in the series. In these broadcasts I invited a couple additional coaches to join me in the discussion.

In this second one, we went into detail about what "Loving Ourselves Unconditionally" means; we defined "loving" and "unconditionally"; we also described what it would look like and how it would feel when you are loving yourself unconditionally.

click here:   2nd Sunday - "Month of Sundays"

In this third broadcast, we dug a little deeper on "Finding and Reconnecting with Your Authentic Self" and "Overcoming Your Inner Critic".

click here:   3rd Sunday - "Month of Sundays"


Both interesting conversations....listen in!!

Hey Y'all!!

We're full blown into the holiday season now and I wanted to hop on to wish you a very safe, warm and loving Thanksgiving!  Don't hurt yourself eating so much! ..lol..

For this holiday, if you gather with your friends and families, try to enjoy the moment!  Laugh at the silly mistakes a loved one may make or the petty shade that may be thrown.  For this holiday, rise above the messiness!  Don't allow anyone pull the plug on your gratitude...and speaking of gratitude, take a few moments to really think and give THANKS for what you have, no matter how small it may seem to you.  Would you lend a person more money if, when you did, they never said "thank you"?  How do you expect the Universe to bless you with more when you can't even show gratitude for what you already have??

With that said, may your holiday be filled with fun, family, friends and the creation of many fond memories!

Love y'all!  <3

Need to Connect?

This season can be one of the happiest times of the year...it can also be one of the most depressing and loneliest times of the year as well.

If you need someone to talk to, talk with, to just connect with, contact me at RHRN@trenajones.com . Use the subject "Connections" so I'll recognize you from spam emails.

<3

Tis the Season...and All the Other Things That Make Us Sad...

Recently, I experienced a moment where I "felt" a tiny bit of the loneliness some people may experience when it seems you are alone in this big world.  It was just for a few seconds but it was enough.  To feel as if, in the midst of all these people, you are not seen..or felt.  It's actually physically painful. I mean, it's a physical feeling of pain...I felt it right in the middle part of my torso, from my chest bone to my belly button.

This season brings out three types of people...those who get so revitalized, you can sense the optimism in the air and the good feelings continue to flow through the new year.  Others just try to make it through all of the hustle and bustle with a sane mind and not-so-empty pockets.  But for others, this is the loneliest season there is, almost unbearably so.

The last group mentioned are the ones I'm addressing.  I had the experience for a quick moment but I can't begin to say I know how you feel.

It's been on my heart to create a space ...a welcoming and judgement-free space of warmth, understanding and openness.  I'm in the process of figuring out exactly what platform to use for this movement and I know I need to figure it out soon.  Maybe I just need to do something, anything to get it started...and let it evolve on it's own.

With that thought, I'll begin...right here, right now.  *wow...I'm using my own business name, concept (and tattoo!) on myself!  lol...  With that being said, join me!!!  I'm going to start with a Facebook Group...I'll name it ..."Connections", at least for now. Maybe the name will change in the future but I need to start somewhere, right? 

"Connections" will be a space where you can come when you need someone to talk to or someone to just listen.  And like the name says, to connect with others. So, with that, I'm off to create the page.  Come join me when you can...I look forward to seeing you there.  :-)

Gifted...and a PTP Note

For as long as I can remember, I had a little something “extra”.  I never thought much about it because being a child, my mind was of the notion this was the way for everyone.  At around the age of 16, I realized that no, everyone didn’t have it.  I don’t know how or what to label it as….I consider it a gift from God.  I didn’t tell many people about it because I feared most people would consider it strange.  Even today, depending on which word is used to describe it, there are folks who want to label what’s God-made. 

It’s funny to me, now, but as a kid, not so much.  As a grown-ass adult I can see the hypocrisy in the judgement of the description.  If I call it “prophecy” or being an “empath”, it’s all good; but if I call it “psychic”, somehow that very same goodness turns bad.  Funny, huh?  My mama called me her psychic baby and from the name of this blog, you know which one I prefer.  Even if it's just in rebellion of it all.

   

Not the “I know the lottery numbers” kind of thing (or else I would be writing this from my luxury bungalow in Hawaii or the Caribbean!) but more of the “casually strolling along and out pops a thought”, or the “I feel you and your path” kind.  ßBy that I mean exactly what it says, I can somehow sense where you’ve been, where you are and sometimes where you’ll end up.  Not everyone. Not every time. But enough.

I do believe that’s why it was so hard for me to do the usual dating thing…I could feel the BS, control issues, insecurity, etc..from a mile away!  I must admit I gave way to curiosity several times to entertain an interesting story, a strong sense of realness (with several doses of foolishness added in!), or a knock-out sense of humor a few times.  But deep down I knew what was what.

Although the feelings can sometimes be overwhelming, I pray to God to strengthen my gift in accordance with His Will but to please be cognizant in where I am mentally, emotionally, etc.   ..lol…yeah, that last bit is me being a little chicken…He knows me.  

For example, very recently I attended a large gathering and got such a strong sense of someone being “used” and/or taken advantage of, that I almost said something to the intended victim…but I didn’t.  Some things just shouldn’t be said unless it’s asked.  Especially when it deals with “emotions”.  I pray she’ll be aware and smarter if  when it shows itself.

Well, speaking of things that shouldn’t be said, aka “knowing when to shut up”, this is enough sharing for now.  ..lol.. 

But before I go, I do want to post a PTP note:  Last night I dreamed of sabotage...close family/friend sabotage.  Abundance received but envied by a close family/friend-tie; and then the unnecessary, destructive sabotage.  Folks, be smarter in the way you conduct your business and who you show/tell it to!

Alrighty now, y'all have a wonderful, blessed day and be safe out there!  And as always, if ya need me, I'm here.

email:  RHRN@trenajones.com

~Toodles!

We'll Be Alright... I Promise

There's much to be said after all of this foolishness that was the elections.  However, it won't be said here.  Why?  Because it's all been said and frankly my dear, I'm tired of saying and hearing it.  Tired of folks making excuses as to why they "did what they did", when in reality, it doesn't matter.  God is at the helm and regardless of what your intentions are/were, He's going to have the first, middle and last say.  I just hope you can bear to hear it.

Now, back to life....  I held my first "Month of Sundays" last Sunday, with "2nd Sunday" coming up in a few days.  It was ok.  I was told it was informative, interesting, etc...but really, it was only ok.  I "fluffed" it.  Meaning, I skimmed the surface and honestly, I may not have done it justice.  Therefore, at the request of another listener, I'm going to go back and go in...in-depth, in detail.

One of the topics discussed was "loving yourself unconditionally".  And because I only went through an overview, I would like to delve into what exactly love is and what does "unconditionally" means when it applies to loving ourselves.

So, in a couple days, I will go at it again...sharing a little more, going a little deeper.  During this go-round, I want group participation.  Join me.  And let me know what you think.  Just go to www.trenajones.com to register (don't forget to confirm through your email!!) and you will be emailed all of the information for calling in.

Hope to "see" you there!
~Toodles!

Getting to Self Love

I've morphed...well, my life coaching business has morphed.  It's basically streamlining into something even more focused.  Originally, my main focus was on relationships--all relationships, from mate-to-mate, friend-to-friend, even group coaching.  But I've discovered, in order to get in, be in, or stay in, ANY form of relationship, we must first "relate" to one important person... OURSELVES!  Thus begin the pathway of focus on self care / self love...

Choosing to love yourself may seem like a simple, natural thing to do, maybe something that happens without even having to give much thought behind it.  But honestly, sometimes we have to be reminded to love and care for ourselves.  Or sometimes because of past decisions or past happenings, we find it's much harder to achieve the overwhelming love for ourselves that others may seem to easily have figured out how to do.  We get so into blaming ourselves and/or doing for others, we forget about giving ourselves even the little things to show gratitude.  Not voicing that energy into the Universe hinders our progression, making it difficult for us to stay strong and be able to provide "whole" love to others. 

So why not start at the baseline?  Why not start at a space that can lead to heathy, viable relationships of ANY kind?  Why not start with YOU? 

And so it begins....

November 6th I will be holding a FREE teleseminar.  This seminar will introduce you to the month-long teleseminar I will be offering titled "A Month of Sundays".  Each Sunday, for 4 weeks, I will spend time discussing self care.  On how we can get to a much better space in our daily lives; to be the best YOU that you can be. 

And guess what?  You can join me on the FREE call on November 6th at 2:00p (EST).  All you need to do is visit my website at  www.trenajones.com  to sign up.  Once you're there, just click the "Sign Up" button and the information to call and/or listen over your computer will be sent to you prior to the call.

I look forward to seeing you on the call.  ....What??  you're still here??  Go sign up for the FREE call NOW at www.trenajones.com  !  :-)     

When They Are Ready, They Will Come...

I am a shy extrovert.  Yep, there ya go, I said it.  Shy - Extrovert - Coach  I think when most people first see me, I'm thought of as unapproachable.  I've been told that on a few occasions and I don't know why because I'm always smiling...or at least I think I am.  I just know in most situations, people don't easily approach me.  It's not until I speak or have conversation with someone else, that someone decides "I'm ok" enough to begin gravitating towards me.  ..lol..  Maybe my southern accent eases the perception, I don't know.  And the fact that I'm somewhat shy doesn't really help the situation, but this has been the way for me for most of my adult life.

I've recognized I'm usually found next to more aggressive and outgoing people...because they don't seem to care or are less concerned with the way they are perceived.  Or maybe because they're living closer to their truths, they're able to see through whatever it is I'm projecting to others.  Either way, I'm fine with this because, as I've lived, I've learned the time I get to spend observing others during the "apprehensive stage" is extremely valuable.  I get to see the "acts" of the people who surround me before actively engaging.  I can then choose who I should sidestep and who are the ones giving off negative vibes.

This observation time also allows my discernment to go to work, fully engaged.  I can pick up insecurities, feel past situations, be cognizant of underlying weaknesses.   Maybe this is why I'm cautiously approached...maybe some can "feel" my ability to actually see them for who they truly are.  If that is the case, I pray its understood I stand with no intentional judgement.

I was told by a close family member, in so many words, my coaching clients will easily find me because of my inner workings.  They will automatically gravitate towards me because the need originates internally.  And I feel that's truth.  By having this extra time which I once thought of negatively, I'm allowed time to work.  To figure things out.  For the Universe to fill me with whatever it is YOU need so that I am then able to pour back out into you.

And that's cool with me.

Random Ramblings...

Today a lady stopped to talk to me.  She said I needed to monitor the "angry" people.  She told this to me specifically to me because I was manning a booth to an event I'd helped plan at work and I was smiling, greeting and engaging with passersby. I jokingly told her, "Yes!  Maybe I should stand along the hallways and greet people, just as they do in large department stores!"  She laughed but then got serious, insisting there were too many angry people around.  I quickly stopped the joking and listened.

According to this lady, she believes she's being stalked by "angry" people.  She believes someone is breaking into her home, frightening her cats, and taking items from her home...picture frames, curtain rods, etc.  She's moved about 3 times in the last couple years.  She told me she believes she saw the culprit breaking into her neighbor's home recently...and when he saw her looking, he smiled at her with the smile of a kid who's hands have been caught in the cookie jar.

I asked her if her neighbors had reported the crime and she said, "No, but I heard the "robber" rambling through things and knocking things over."  She's determined "they" are the construction workers who are working nearby, who, by the way, are NOT Americans.  The police won't help her even after she's called them numerous times.  Her cats are now anxious and afraid because the perpetrators are harassing them when they come into her house.  She's pretty positive these are the same people who were stalking her in the past three cities she's lived in and who killed her older cat at her previous home. 

After being the recipient of several possible schizophrenia phone calls in the past, I quickly recognized her ranting about foreign stalker as something that MAY exist only in her imagination...which, I'm sure, are still very frightening if she believes her thoughts, as she obviously does since she's installed security systems, padlocks, etc., to her home.

She's alone with only her cats.  Is she lonely?  Mental issues?  Or are there really some person or persons stalking this lady?  Whatever it is, she seemed to have gotten some relief by having someone to talk to, if only for a short while.

I don't know why I chose to tell this story...maybe it's my attempt to 1- put her conversation on paper to allow me time to analyze/process our conversation; or maybe 2- to put into words how important it is for us to show compassion to our fellow man.  I don't know.  Maybe you can pull something out of it.

Change Your Thoughts...Change Your Reality

Every one of us, at some point in our lives, may feel as if we are not enough; feel as if the things we do are insignificant.   For most of us, that feeling goes away after some time, but for others, the feeling seems to stick around much longer than is healthy.   We get stuck in a funk which causes us to feel some type of way about ourselves.  The truth of the matter is, it’s ONLY A FEELING.  And you have the power to change that feeling simply by changing your THOUGHTS.

Example… Tony is a loner.  He feels as if no one understands him, that he’s a strange vegetable in a world full of fruits.  He feels the world looks at him as some strange entity and it makes him self-conscious and somewhat a loner.  Now, because of that THOUGHT, he withdraws even deeper into himself, making himself feel even more like a loner.  Because he feels ostracized, he stays at home and pretty much entertain himself with videos and old movies.  By staying at home, Tony is even less likely to meet any new people, therefore making his original thought (no one understands him and he’s looked at as strange) manifest into reality.

Now what do you think would happen if Tony changed his original thought from “no one understand me and I’m looked at as strange” to “I am a unique individual and I am an interesting person to know”?  Yes!  Tony would make himself available in situations where folks have the opportunity to meet him, which with this newfound confidence, would no doubt happen sooner than later because we all love being around confident, interesting people. 

Tony is still the same person, but he THINKS differently of himself…creating a totally new outcome from the initial example. 

You may say, “Trena, this is too simple to be real” but I promise you, when your thoughts change (and you believe them!), your reality changes!    

Questions?  Email me at:  RHRN@trenajones.com  or follow me at www.facebook.com/RHRNLifeCoaching 

Guard YOU!

Good morning y’all.  I read a question on social media asking where has the romance gone.  My response was, “a high-tech, fast-paced world = a high-tech fast-paced romance”.  It seems with all the new technology of today, to include snapchat, IM'ing, online dating, tinder, etc…the notion of “easy does it” has fallen by the wayside. 

What happened to waiting, male and female, before sharing your body with someone?  Or dating for longer than 10 minutes before you proclaimed “relationship goals”?  Yes, true romance seems to have died a painful death.  Have we truly gotten so insecure that we feel the only way to someone’s heart is by sharing the one thing that should be so precious to us?  I’m in no way a prude and I’m not judging anyone’s liberation, I’m just asking what has really happened to getting to know someone first?

Do you ever wonder why you feel a certain way after a hateful person comes around and infect your mindset with all the bad things they are experiencing?  Even if, before they arrived you were feeling happy, when they leave you feel like your spirit has been drained.  That’s because their negative energy has been transferred to you and therefore, you then feel some of the residual effects of that negativity. 

This is the same thing that happen when we share our “energy”, our bodies, with folks who may not be good for us.  We are ALL energy.  When we are intimate with others , that energy is shared, transferred and exchanged.  In essence, you are gathering into you all of the “stuff” that individual has experienced…and all the stuff that individual’s experience has experienced.  Why shouldn’t we be a little more careful?

As I said, I'm not judging in any way, just want to bring a little light to a situation.  Sex does NOT equate to LOVE; it does not guarantee acceptance, it does not make you something more than you were before the act. 

Guard your essence like you would guard your home and most valuable possessions.  There will always be thieves out here trying to take all that they can take.  GUARD YOU!!

...and in the event no one has told you today, you are special and I love you.  <3

It's Alive!!!

Ok, so it's not quite Frankenstein but I have officially "promoted" my business page on Facebook.  If you are so inclined, I would be honored if you stopped by and checked it out.  If you are interested in future events, "Like" the page and if you're feeling extra cocky, IM me letting me know you stopped by!  I'm at:  www.facebook.com/RHRNLifeCoaching

Toodles!

What's up with all these videos??

Hey y'all,

So, to explain why the influx of videos below...  I'm doing relationship Q&As on my facebook business page   www.facebook.com/rhrnlifecoaching  and just decided to include the videos here.  These were done over about a week or so time and I will probably continue it for maybe another week. 

If you have any questions you'd like me to give my opinion on, email it to me at   RHRN@trenajones.com   All identities will remain anonymous unless specifically requested.  Bring'em on...and I'll do my best to provide a response! 

Toodles!

Relationship Q&A "What's up with all these older men with very young bab...

Relationship Q&A: "What do women really want in a relationship?"

Relationship Q&A #2

Relationship Q&A

PTP Note .... Take Care of the Babies!

I've awaken from a "dream" for about three nights straight about someone neglecting their child...a very young child.

Check for leg/torso burns, being left alone, unattended.

People, please take care of your children..and be on the lookout for those who don't!!

We Are What We...Think

I was speaking with a client who thought her issue was one thing but through our session, she realized it was something totally different from what she'd originally thought.

Sometimes, the decisions we make in areas of our lives are really symptoms of other things that are buried beneath our conscious minds.  With life coaching, the important questions are asked to help you find your answers and your REAL life blocks. 

Soon after my divorce was final, I found myself a magnet for men who were, let us just say, “working on themselves”.  I honestly thought the Universe was playing games with me, trying to teach me some valuable lessons about humbleness!!  Now don’t get me wrong, what we go through is all part of our personal growth, however, I was beginning to think the Universe and I were going to need to have a serious sit down!!  But after some much needed self-reflection, I realized it wasn’t the Universe playing tricks, it was my mindset!

Growing up in an environment that was less than rich...much less than rich... seeing almost all of the young men in my life in some form of “growth”, I had taken on the female version of Captain Save-A-Ho! ..lol..  I called it the “Chief Save a Chump” syndrome.  Not only did I want to lift men up, I wanted to feel as if I was the pivotal point in their lives…I wanted to be looked at as that “got it together” chick. 

Turns out, men my age (40+) who need a woman to save them, aren’t really trying to be saved, they’re trying to be kept.  We need to let them save themselves!  But I can promise you this, as soon as my mindset changed, a totally new type of man began to show up. 

Now, let me say this…the “new type of man” showing up weren’t all necessarily FOR ME, but that homeless, jobless, transportation-less type of guy definitely disappeared. 

Ok, so all of this to say this…  once we change the way we think, change our mindset, that change is going to be what we will bring into our lives. 

So, … how are YOU thinking?

You can email me at RHRN@trenajones.com if you want to talk about it.  :-)

Recognize and Trust Your Intuition!

Sometimes we go through something that at the other end of it, we’re less trusting…not just less trusting of others but of ourselves as well.  We are hesitant to rely on our intuition once we feel we’ve “allowed” ourselves to be tricked or played or whatever you want to call it.

We wonder if we can trust our judgement of others because, if not for our flawed judgement, how in hell did we not see him/her for who they really were, right?  The thing is, we DID see it.  We just chose to make excuses for someone else’s bad behavior because the excuses made US feel better.

Think about it…when you look back on any perceived failed relationship, every single sign of “assclown-ery” was there and WE SAW IT!  Some of us even had conversation about it with ourselves to convince us we may be mistaken.

So instead of immediately acting on the red flags we saw from the beginning, we decided to overthink it to stay in what could POSSIBLY be “The” relationship; to avoid giving up something that MAY be good.    Come on, you can admit it, we’ve all done it.

Now, it’s time to LEARN from all of the past lessons.  Time to recognize the symbols and signs of things that are not good for us…signs that YOU ARE ALREADY FAMILIAR WITH!

From that sinking feeling in your belly, to the heavy drag of insecurity, to the secret dose of shame.  We don’t just know it, we feel it. 

I have discovered one simple exercise to help me recognize and identify the signs of maltreatment.  And that’s simply to do this…  Put yourself in that person’s shoes and THINK about what would make YOU respond and/or act the way they do/did.  What type of mindset would YOU have to be in to do what is being done to you by the other person. 

Here’s an example of what I mean.  You’ve called this person two or three times, left a message, and sent a text (which, by the way, you sent because you made up an excuse as to why he/she hadn’t responded to your ten calls and voice messages).  When you put yourself in the absentee’s shoes, you will know if someone you were interested in called you, you would call them back as soon as you could and if you couldn’t call them, you would send a quick text to let them know what was going on and why you couldn’t talk at that time.  However, if you’re NOT interested, you may respond exactly as he/she has responded….not at all.

I promise you, if you HONESTLY do this exercise every time you feel any of those highlighted phrases up there in paragraph 6, you will be that much closer to recognizing and moving towards making the right decisions for YOU!!

How Does This Coaching Thing Work...

Well...let me explain it....

It's Organic...

That’s what I’m being led to believe. My spirit says those who need me will find me…organically. Without any forced sales pitch, without any cold calls, we will simply be put in each other’s path. So my random “call to consult” will no longer be actively offered. Yes, it will be available if requested for a while but I won't initiate the process.

There are always the initial consult calls, you know, the call where we see if we’re a good fit to work together? I wouldn’t feel right asking someone to pay for something they’re not comfortable in, therefore those will always be free of charge.

So, I’ll let folks know what I have to offer, place my cards where they can be seen; if I’m moved to pass one on, I will. I know this is what I’m supposed to do. I’m okay with this process.

If you need me, email me at: RHRN@trenajones.com

Reflections

In my bathroom there are mirrors all over the place, including the large one that makes up the wall along the length of my bathtub. That was one thing I believe drew me to my home when I was searching…it was different. I also believe that may have been why it was still on the market. Well, that and the fact the previous owners had also had it completely carpeted…with beige carpet. Yeah… But it was different.. and I loved it! I’ve changed the carpet out but the mirrors are still there.

This morning as I was getting out of the shower, I looked over at one of the mirrors. It was the small medicine cabinet mirror that’s perpendicular to the wall of mirror over my double sinks. And I could see myself…my whole self. You may ask, “What’s “note-worthy” about this?” Well, I can remember when I couldn’t see myself.

No, this isn’t a figurative analogy… I literally could not see my face in the mirror. It always seemed to fall right at the crease of the mirrors. When I first noticed, that no matter where I stood in the shower, my face landed between the creases, I just let the memory go. You know how you notice something that feels extremely important, but you talk yourself into believing it’s not a big deal…it’s just coincidence? Only the funny thing is, I didn’t believe in coincidence then and I don’t now. But that’s what I said to myself. I mean, if I stood directly in front of it, yeah, I saw my reflection but how could my face ALWAYS be there, in that crease, no matter where I stood in the shower? Whenever I was completely naked? And I could have sworn I’d been able to see it before…but I talked myself into blocking that thought after a while too.

I remember that time well now. My household had a six-figure income; we were traveling when we wanted to; kids appeared to be doing well; I had a large beautiful AMAZING home, pets, cars. I felt like I was happy. It was probably during the lowest time in my life.

You see, deep down, or maybe not so deep, I knew I was tolerating something I couldn’t live with. I was allowing someone else to crush my spirit, to lower my self-value. I don’t recall exactly when I gave up control of my own happiness but I did.

It was a few years after “losing” my reflection I decided to end my 22+ year marriage. To move from my 5,000+ square foot home, to give up the additional six-figure income having a husband entailed, to give up almost all of my furniture; to give up the certainty, the familiar. That was also when I made the decision to move out of that space in my life. And do you know what? THAT’S when my reflection returned.

To this day, I can’t explain this phenomenon. Yet I totally “get” it. I couldn’t face myself. It was that simple. I couldn’t face the person who allowed the vibrant, full of life, full of hope woman to be totally subdued. I couldn’t face being a participant in degrading me and my position within my family. It was as if I’d become a different person. Temporarily. When I made the conscious decision to save me, oh man….you wouldn’t believe the excitement I felt! The excitement, the relief, the JOY! Even typing that drew a deep in- and exhale from my soul. And to this day I know God was with me and I thank Him.

From the moment I decided to leave, I was able to find a place to live, started a lease mid-month, I got a deep discount with movers, my bank referred me to a financial advisor, WITHOUT my prompting, and believe it or not, I even got help from the IRS! Within two weeks, I was settled.

That started over ten years ago and this is my first time EVER sharing this. For some reason I was compelled to do it TODAY. Someone needs / needed to hear this TODAY.

If you have lost yourself, do whatever it takes, by any means necessary to FIND YOU! It doesn't matter if it's a bad relationship, an unsatisfying job, or the inaction of living your life. Don’t let him / her drown while you look on or look the other way in the attempt to avoid discomfort or whatever it is that’s stopping you. Courage isn’t about NOT being afraid; it’s about doing the right thing even when you are terrified. SAVE YOU!

I’m here if you need to talk; personally or professionally, at RHRNCoaching@gmail.com .

When "2 + 2" really does equal 4....

Yet another manifestation of my direction, my purpose, was shown to me this morning. According to Merriam-Webster, “manifestation” is defined as “a sign that shows something clearly”. And my heart rejoices as it’s continually shown I’m going in the right direction, along the right pathway.

This morning I was encouraging a co-worker on her intentions of starting a desired business for herself. (I don’t advertise my life coaching path at work unless it’s in private conversations, so no one who doesn’t know me beyond work, knows this is now my direction; this lady has only known me in passing for two months). When I did mention it, after letting her know I was ABSOLUTELY for anyone in pursuit of their dreams, do you know what this lady said??

She said, “I KNEW you were placed here (in our office) for a purpose! This weekend I brought up your name several times to my husband and for some reason, I saw the word “trinity” associated with your name! God said she’s here, now talk to her.” Wow.

I’m humbled… and I totally receive that as a compliment AND confirmation of God’s blessings in and on this journey of mine.

"The Plane, the plane!"

Well, it's not exactly "the plane" that's here, it's my deck of game cards, "In The Know", I created!! I currently use these when I host my "He / She Discussions" and plan on incorporating them into my group coaching sessions in the future!!

And I'm so excited to see them! As I've spoken of before, all things I've been through, participated in, have all led up to this moment in time. I've had these cards well before starting my Right Here, Right Now Life / Relationship Coaching business. The group game was always well received and much demanded when "played" in the past and once I arrived at this point in my life, I decided to have them made into an actual deck of cards. So I designed the layout and got to work!

Here they are right here:

And speaking of this pathway I'm headed, guess where I got the name of my business from? A tattoo! My tattoo!! To me, the words "right here, right now" means to live life to the fullest RIGHT NOW! We are all right where we're supposed to be and right here, right now is how we should enjoy this journey. No worrying about what happened yesterday or what may happen tomorrow...live in the present. Don't let your mistakes or your fears of what may be, deter you from becoming ALL that you were meant to be. Your past and all that happened in it is preparing you for your TRUTH! Please don't let it slip by. Right here, right now.

A Freebie....

For the next 60 days, (through 27 October), I’m offering to pay for the first coaching session (up to 40 minutes) you have with me. Yep…that’s right, a freebie. Why? Well, because I know a lot of folks aren’t familiar with life / relationship coaching and what better way to introduce them to the concept? No risk, no obligation….well, a review would be nice but that’s it. If you’re interested, email me at rhrncoaching@gmail.com and I’ll get you scheduled!

And please know, I’d love to speak with you at ANY time, so don’t let that timeframe stop you from contacting me for a 15-minute “Meet and Greet” call that’s ALWAYS free! ;-)

PTP Note... Have them check your heart...

Had a dream just before waking up this morning...and the last thing that I said in the dream was "have them check your heart"...

The dream was about a young couple who'd just had a baby. The baby was calling someone else mom and, being a new parent, the mother was understandably upset. As the mother was trying to reinforce to the baby that she was "mama", I begin telling the young lady it was ok, that babies do that sometimes. I started giving an example about when my niece was a baby years ago, she was sent a message from birth to pass on and that message was "have them check your heart...." and then I woke up.

I also remember there were two people who were unknowingly observing the couple from a social stand point, in some social clinical way, such as in the roles of social workers.

...but I then woke up, came downstairs to capture this. Interesting. Hmm.

Life Coach...I Am

I am a life coach. I am a life coach, using an intuitive and holistic approach. I claim it now because it seems I’ve been pushed in this direction for such a long time and I’m finally connecting the pieces. I can remember so many incidents and ideas that were gently (and not so gently!) guiding me in this direction and I’m amazed at how they all fit into this God given gift o’ mine.

From years back I can remember trying to figure out what it was that was calling me and questioning how I could use the gifts God blessed me with naturally. I can remember wanting to start a “1-800-talk to me” line in order to be there for folks who needed that human connection but wasn’t getting it in their everyday lives; I can remember wanting to open up a “spot” for middle aged patrons to come and relax and connect through discussion; the “Discussion/Question” game I created to get conversations started. I fondly remember all of the sincere “Thank You”s received from family, friends and strangers alike after my guidance and encouragement. Even my event planning business has a role in my overall vision.

And all it took was sincere prayer and faith. You see, I prayed, with faith, to God, asking for His guidance. And almost immediately I was continuously placed in situations where my words helped someone out. From the beautiful but newly unengaged notary at the bank, to a relative and close friend back home, to the newly divorced 60-year old lady in the car shop…I kept running into situations and I’m now recognizing God’s Voice. I am now becoming aware of all the past and present incidents that are now converging, strengthening my conviction.

And you know what? I can actually see an end vision of where this gift will take me, how it will look and how ALL of the past decisions I’ve made are working together to make it all come together. I have so much faith this is the direction I’m supposed to be going. I’ve had doubts about the process and I'm sure they will continue to come but I BELIEVE in the RESULTS!!

I'm excited in this. And as I solidify my processes, I will eventually offer free initial consults. Watch for the offers here. Peace!

Could This Be It??

Today I went to my local vision store to pick up my new glasses and when I walked in, the doctor asked one of the assistants to fit me. When she turned around and saw me, she exclaimed, “Trena!” ...lol...No, I’m not a local celebrity, heavens no, but this lady and I had spoken before, when I’d gone in to have the glasses ordered. During that visit, she’d asked me what I did since I’d declared I was working from home that day. I explained I was working from home from my main job but I also was an event planner. She got excited because, come to find out, she used to plan events herself a few years ago! Well, we chatted a little more that day, ending with me encouraging her to consider pursuing what she felt was her gift once again.

So, today when she saw me, she was very excited to tell me the string of events that had happened since our last conversation. She’d prayed about it and after speaking with her spiritual advisor at her church, she decided to go back to living in her gift! By the way, she makes chocolate buttercream candies and I must say, I would love to sample some of her wares!! :-)

Needless to say, I was very excited for her and we chatted about it for a little bit more. She gave me her phone number and other contact information, making me promise I’ll get in touch with her. And I will. But…

Here’s the thing…. I prayed for guidance to lead me to MY gift. And yeah, my first thought was to question why I was able to guide others to THEIR solutions but had to wait for my answer on what MY true gift is. Then it came to me….maybe this IS my answer. Maybe my gift is to help others progress in their lives.

Interesting, huh?

And to Think, It's Only Mid Day...

After almost 5 years of being divorced, I’m still working on this thing, trying to get the strings completely untied. Today, while in the bank using the free signature guarantee service, the person who helped me casually asked me about my process. The one thing I had to offer her was, “Don’t worry about being nice and fair just to get through the process, be SMART first!” She thanked me and went on to share her experience. Although hers was a break from a long engagement, she felt she was still being taken through unnecessary processes to equally split what they’d grown together.

I could tell she wanted to talk more and I was moved to share a little bit more. I explained to her why I’d said what I said. During my divorce, when I could have taken EVERYTHING, I chose to be “fair”…more than fair honestly because I gave up so much more than I probably should have, to include the family home. My lawyer advised me I could have it easily…but I didn’t want it; I felt it was too large for me and my girls. And besides, I wanted to start anew! I wanted to begin the long needed process of finding out exactly who TRENA was/is…and the journey have been AMAZING but that is another story!

I could tell the teller needed more and without a clue to what she needed, I just followed my feelings… “When it comes to infidelity, if he comes to you with his confession, then he may truly be remorseful and ashamed of what he’s done; you may have a chance to fix the relationship if you both are willing. However, if YOU find out and he continues to deny it, then he’s probably not ashamed or sorry, he’s only upset that he got caught.” She confirmed my suspicions, admitting that’s exactly what she was dealing with.

She told me she had to deal with him TODAY and was so glad I’d come in; she was apprehensive about the emotions she felt would surface once face-to-face with him again. I said to her, “What you felt, what he made you feel, was the fantasy of the man for you. He only pretended to have those qualities. So when you look at him, know that he was only the vehicle that brought your ideal of your man to light…he’s NOT that man. And it’s ok to feel sad, because the relationship is worth grieving but don’t let those emotions make you outthink your head.”

The man for her is out there, she’s a beautiful woman who now has an idea of how “The One” should be (and NOT be!). I’m sure she’ll be just fine. To think, I was turned down by two places I thought would be able to help me with my paperwork. Turns out, I needed to be turned down so that I could go into that particular bank, with that particular teller, at that particular time.

Random Connections

I remember a phone call I received a few years ago while working at the U.S. Mint. *Did you know folks who collect coins are called “numismatists”? That was one of the first things I learned there…lol. Well, I received a phone call from this obviously distressed, elderly numismatist, complaining about some coins he hadn’t received. The older gentleman was very irate and as much as I tried to help him with his situation, he refused to accept what I was saying. So, I just let him talk ….

Now, in the customer service arena, our instructions were to try to diffuse any confrontation so we were allowed the time needed to make this happen. This particular call lasted just over 1.5 hours. Eventually, the older gentleman got around to asking me more personal questions and telling me about his life. I answered his questions, as random as they were, and he eventually got around to talking about his living arrangements and the conditions he was living under. Now, I’d realized a little early on this man may have, at minimum, some mild mental issues when he begin telling my all about the antics of his white pet squirrel, who he kept in a birdcage. (I still think, somewhere out there, there’s a dead squirrel in an old man’s apartment!).

The “mild mental issues” suspicions kind of grew when he proceeded to tell me about the people who were watching him through his wall and were sending micro-electronic mind waves through his head every other night. I continued to actively listen to his stories and he finally asked me what race I was. I laughed and asked him what race did he think I was? He said, “You sound like a black gal” (yeah, he said “gal”) and he then asked me what did I think he looked like and I told him he sounded like an old(er) white man and he confirmed my guess and we both had a chuckle.

Within those next few moments, he told me how much he’d enjoyed talking to me, how his family never came to visit him, and his plans on how hw would prevent the “others” from attacking his mind-waves. He also told me he was going in for surgery the upcoming week and how nervous he was about it. I told him I would call him back to check on him the day after the surgery was due. He appreciated that and I did call him back.

This time the conversation was much briefer; about 5 minutes, but he told me he appreciated me reaching back out to him. I told him to call me anytime he needed to and he said he would. I never heard from him again. I’m praying he just never needed to.

Sometimes complaints, harsh words, prolonged disagreements are the only way some folks can get “connections” to the rest of the world.

Be kind when you can.

Waiting ...In Faith

Yesterday I read an article titled “3 Things to Do When You Aren’t Sure Which Direction To Go”, written by Rochelle Inglis. To paraphrase, the article says, if what you are doing isn’t free of confusion, it’s probably a sign you’re not doing what God has put in your heart to do.

The three things “to do” were:

1. Ask for wisdom - When asking for wisdom, do so in faith.
2. Write it down – Once you receive the answer, write it down for future reference.
3. Do something – Once you receive the answer, act on it!

I’m sharing this because I’ve found myself in this confused state a lot lately. I have an event planning business, but there are times I question if that is my true calling. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love the creativity of the business, creating events and items that folks fall in love with and feel special about. But there are times I feel convinced I’m supposed to be doing something else. And I was told by a wise friend, just because you can do it, doesn't mean that's what you're supposed to do!

So, I prayed about it ...IN FAITH ...and am waiting on God’s direction. Maybe it is indeed the planning business…maybe it’s not. All I know is, I continue to get these amazing ideas reeling through my head and my desire to figure it out has far exceeded my point of discovery on my own. I do know once you open yourself up to the Universe, things have a way of coming to you. So, I’m open…and I’m waiting…in faith. ;-)

Just a tid bit...

I talked to God and prayed for a paced growth in my gift, one I can handle without spooking myself out or being spooked out. Last night I dreamed about pets and their cages…and guess who had escaped HIS kennel this morning? Yeah…mine. I either didn’t lock his kennel like I thought I had or his partner in crime helped him unlock it. It may have been a combination of both but I dreamed there was assistance.

Anyone else’s pet “escape” in some form or another? ..lol…little rascals.

The Passive Thug

It's 6:50a and I'm here slightly pissed at a somewhat popular "scholar" passively attacking another popular man's position on Facebook. ("Popular" - having a larger following). I've watched this man and his posts and it's always the same...never coming right out to voice his feelings, just hinting at it so others can "fight the fight" for him. He stacks the wood in a neat little pile and then casually hands out flames to the easily led, so that they can attack the other dude. I call this type of person a "Passive Thug"...you initiate all of the animosity but cowardly step away so others can ignite the flame. It's shameful...cowardly and shameful.

Ok, rant over... Good morning! :-)

My New...Tattoo

After procrastinating for quite a while, I went in to get my tattoo this evening. This one makes my fourth and like all the others, it took me a minute to decide, debate with myself, and then marinate on that decision before actually going in. And finally after much dallying and delaying, I got up, dragged my daughter with me and did the darn thang!

It's a tattoo consisting of only four words... "right here, right now". It signifies an ending of putting things off and a beginning of living in the moment, in the now. Not too much worrying about yesterday or what may happen tomorrow; simply LIVING. IN. THE. NOW!

I believe when you are doing the best you can with what you have and where you are, without any ill-intent or negativity, the results will be ok. When we live in our truth and make decisions within a blanket of decency, our decisions are usually the right ones. Right here, right now….trusting with all my heart God has my back and the doors and pathways I am to follow will continue to open for me as I make my way through this journey.

Right here, right now….

Third time's the Charm...

Ok, so, for the third time, I’m changing the title of this blog. I originally used the word “empath”, I then changed it to “seer” and am now, after more research, changing it to “psychic”. This was my original thought however there are certain connotations that come with that word and I was trying to avoid them. But alas, here I am…at this word again.

It’s funny…although most folks who know me, know me, yet I still feel some type of way about actively and publically declaring this “gift”. Maybe it’s all just been a lifetime of coincidences…except I don’t really believe in coincidences. Eh… Call it what you want. At this moment, at this time, I’m calling it “Psychic”. We’ll see…

Tree Aura

Took a picture of this tree back in April (2016) and it appears as if I caught the aura of this great beauty! Just thought I'd share...

Online Dating Profiles ...and a PTP Note

Hello y’all. I pray all is well with you this morning. Me? I’m sitting here trying not to have wine as my “drink of choice” with my breakfast of toast and sausages because that seems to be the only cold drink in the fridge this morning. No worries, …I settled for a second cup of coffee. ;-)

Last night as I was perusing Facebook, I came across a post about how unoriginal some of the folks on the dating sites were…that it seemed everyone copied and paste their profiles. Being a past user of online dating, I can surely relate…after a while the profiles begin to read as if everyone were clones of everyone else. There were some that were…interesting, to say the least, but it were the few that read genuine I enjoyed reading the most.

After my divorce, I became quite the “online dating” guru, and I must say, I learned a LOT! One thing is, if you’re serious about meeting someone, be truthful. Don’t say you’re just looking for a friend when you know you’re really looking for a committed relationship. And don’t claim commitment when all you’re really just fishing for is easy booty. Trust me, there are enough of all types out there!

Analyze and realize YOUR truth! Trying to be “nice” and say all of the “right” things, don’t cut it..and this applies on and off line. Be confident in who YOU are and the right person will recognize a like soul. Now, this won’t exclude you from the f*ckboys and heifers but you will at least be giving the right one a chance to find you.
Gone now! DO be careful and safe but don’t be scurred! ..lol.. You are perfectly YOU, and that’s ALL GOOD!

**PTP Note: Last night I dreamed about a baby getting hurt by a man known by her family. I woke up and the first “news” I read is about a man who drowned his 3 month-old child. Was this indicative of the dream I had? Don’t know for sure because in my dream, although the child was hurt, she was alive.
Y’all, please be watchful of your babies and young folk…they depend on you to protect them. ALWAYS trust your intuition when it comes to the safety of children.

My Introduction... Hey y'all!

Hey y'all. How are ya? Let me introduce myself. I'm Trena....JustTrena. I've started blogs before but pretty much kept them private although I have shared them with a few people, here and there. This blog I've decided to make public; to share my thoughts in the hopes of helping, in whatever way blogging can help someone, move through this life with a little more clearance, understanding and happiness.

I started vlogging to see how that would work for me and it was ok, ...except it limited me in a sense. With editing taking more time than the actual videoing, kinda discouraged me from the consistency I wanted to maintain. *You can check'em out by searching "Just Trena" in YouTube if you're interested.

I titled this blog "Ramblings of a Part Time Psychic" because early in life, I discovered I have the ability to "see" and feel things and people. NO! Not people long gone, more along the lines of what folks call reading a person's character/situation. My mama actually called me her little psychic. ..lol..I don't necessarily claim that but there have been some interesting things I've encountered. I also like being able to provide a pathway to other folks on every day issues. Not saying I know it all...not by far, but I do alright. The "part time" comes from all the other things going on around me that I'll like to talk about here...it's not necessarily about seeing or predicting things but simply to pass on information, my opinions, my thoughts.

So, when you find yourself with a free moment, stop by and keep my company sometimes! Maybe something I say here can help you...and vice versa! ;-)