Reflections

In my bathroom there are mirrors all over the place, including the large one that makes up the wall along the length of my bathtub. That was one thing I believe drew me to my home when I was searching…it was different. I also believe that may have been why it was still on the market. Well, that and the fact the previous owners had also had it completely carpeted…with beige carpet. Yeah… But it was different.. and I loved it! I’ve changed the carpet out but the mirrors are still there.

This morning as I was getting out of the shower, I looked over at one of the mirrors. It was the small medicine cabinet mirror that’s perpendicular to the wall of mirror over my double sinks. And I could see myself…my whole self. You may ask, “What’s “note-worthy” about this?” Well, I can remember when I couldn’t see myself.

No, this isn’t a figurative analogy… I literally could not see my face in the mirror. It always seemed to fall right at the crease of the mirrors. When I first noticed, that no matter where I stood in the shower, my face landed between the creases, I just let the memory go. You know how you notice something that feels extremely important, but you talk yourself into believing it’s not a big deal…it’s just coincidence? Only the funny thing is, I didn’t believe in coincidence then and I don’t now. But that’s what I said to myself. I mean, if I stood directly in front of it, yeah, I saw my reflection but how could my face ALWAYS be there, in that crease, no matter where I stood in the shower? Whenever I was completely naked? And I could have sworn I’d been able to see it before…but I talked myself into blocking that thought after a while too.

I remember that time well now. My household had a six-figure income; we were traveling when we wanted to; kids appeared to be doing well; I had a large beautiful AMAZING home, pets, cars. I felt like I was happy. It was probably during the lowest time in my life.

You see, deep down, or maybe not so deep, I knew I was tolerating something I couldn’t live with. I was allowing someone else to crush my spirit, to lower my self-value. I don’t recall exactly when I gave up control of my own happiness but I did.

It was a few years after “losing” my reflection I decided to end my 22+ year marriage. To move from my 5,000+ square foot home, to give up the additional six-figure income having a husband entailed, to give up almost all of my furniture; to give up the certainty, the familiar. That was also when I made the decision to move out of that space in my life. And do you know what? THAT’S when my reflection returned.

To this day, I can’t explain this phenomenon. Yet I totally “get” it. I couldn’t face myself. It was that simple. I couldn’t face the person who allowed the vibrant, full of life, full of hope woman to be totally subdued. I couldn’t face being a participant in degrading me and my position within my family. It was as if I’d become a different person. Temporarily. When I made the conscious decision to save me, oh man….you wouldn’t believe the excitement I felt! The excitement, the relief, the JOY! Even typing that drew a deep in- and exhale from my soul. And to this day I know God was with me and I thank Him.

From the moment I decided to leave, I was able to find a place to live, started a lease mid-month, I got a deep discount with movers, my bank referred me to a financial advisor, WITHOUT my prompting, and believe it or not, I even got help from the IRS! Within two weeks, I was settled.

That started over ten years ago and this is my first time EVER sharing this. For some reason I was compelled to do it TODAY. Someone needs / needed to hear this TODAY.

If you have lost yourself, do whatever it takes, by any means necessary to FIND YOU! It doesn't matter if it's a bad relationship, an unsatisfying job, or the inaction of living your life. Don’t let him / her drown while you look on or look the other way in the attempt to avoid discomfort or whatever it is that’s stopping you. Courage isn’t about NOT being afraid; it’s about doing the right thing even when you are terrified. SAVE YOU!

I’m here if you need to talk; personally or professionally, at RHRNCoaching@gmail.com .

When "2 + 2" really does equal 4....

Yet another manifestation of my direction, my purpose, was shown to me this morning. According to Merriam-Webster, “manifestation” is defined as “a sign that shows something clearly”. And my heart rejoices as it’s continually shown I’m going in the right direction, along the right pathway.

This morning I was encouraging a co-worker on her intentions of starting a desired business for herself. (I don’t advertise my life coaching path at work unless it’s in private conversations, so no one who doesn’t know me beyond work, knows this is now my direction; this lady has only known me in passing for two months). When I did mention it, after letting her know I was ABSOLUTELY for anyone in pursuit of their dreams, do you know what this lady said??

She said, “I KNEW you were placed here (in our office) for a purpose! This weekend I brought up your name several times to my husband and for some reason, I saw the word “trinity” associated with your name! God said she’s here, now talk to her.” Wow.

I’m humbled… and I totally receive that as a compliment AND confirmation of God’s blessings in and on this journey of mine.

"The Plane, the plane!"

Well, it's not exactly "the plane" that's here, it's my deck of game cards, "In The Know", I created!! I currently use these when I host my "He / She Discussions" and plan on incorporating them into my group coaching sessions in the future!!

And I'm so excited to see them! As I've spoken of before, all things I've been through, participated in, have all led up to this moment in time. I've had these cards well before starting my Right Here, Right Now Life / Relationship Coaching business. The group game was always well received and much demanded when "played" in the past and once I arrived at this point in my life, I decided to have them made into an actual deck of cards. So I designed the layout and got to work!

Here they are right here:

And speaking of this pathway I'm headed, guess where I got the name of my business from? A tattoo! My tattoo!! To me, the words "right here, right now" means to live life to the fullest RIGHT NOW! We are all right where we're supposed to be and right here, right now is how we should enjoy this journey. No worrying about what happened yesterday or what may happen tomorrow...live in the present. Don't let your mistakes or your fears of what may be, deter you from becoming ALL that you were meant to be. Your past and all that happened in it is preparing you for your TRUTH! Please don't let it slip by. Right here, right now.

A Freebie....

For the next 60 days, (through 27 October), I’m offering to pay for the first coaching session (up to 40 minutes) you have with me. Yep…that’s right, a freebie. Why? Well, because I know a lot of folks aren’t familiar with life / relationship coaching and what better way to introduce them to the concept? No risk, no obligation….well, a review would be nice but that’s it. If you’re interested, email me at rhrncoaching@gmail.com and I’ll get you scheduled!

And please know, I’d love to speak with you at ANY time, so don’t let that timeframe stop you from contacting me for a 15-minute “Meet and Greet” call that’s ALWAYS free! ;-)

PTP Note... Have them check your heart...

Had a dream just before waking up this morning...and the last thing that I said in the dream was "have them check your heart"...

The dream was about a young couple who'd just had a baby. The baby was calling someone else mom and, being a new parent, the mother was understandably upset. As the mother was trying to reinforce to the baby that she was "mama", I begin telling the young lady it was ok, that babies do that sometimes. I started giving an example about when my niece was a baby years ago, she was sent a message from birth to pass on and that message was "have them check your heart...." and then I woke up.

I also remember there were two people who were unknowingly observing the couple from a social stand point, in some social clinical way, such as in the roles of social workers.

...but I then woke up, came downstairs to capture this. Interesting. Hmm.

Life Coach...I Am

I am a life coach. I am a life coach, using an intuitive and holistic approach. I claim it now because it seems I’ve been pushed in this direction for such a long time and I’m finally connecting the pieces. I can remember so many incidents and ideas that were gently (and not so gently!) guiding me in this direction and I’m amazed at how they all fit into this God given gift o’ mine.

From years back I can remember trying to figure out what it was that was calling me and questioning how I could use the gifts God blessed me with naturally. I can remember wanting to start a “1-800-talk to me” line in order to be there for folks who needed that human connection but wasn’t getting it in their everyday lives; I can remember wanting to open up a “spot” for middle aged patrons to come and relax and connect through discussion; the “Discussion/Question” game I created to get conversations started. I fondly remember all of the sincere “Thank You”s received from family, friends and strangers alike after my guidance and encouragement. Even my event planning business has a role in my overall vision.

And all it took was sincere prayer and faith. You see, I prayed, with faith, to God, asking for His guidance. And almost immediately I was continuously placed in situations where my words helped someone out. From the beautiful but newly unengaged notary at the bank, to a relative and close friend back home, to the newly divorced 60-year old lady in the car shop…I kept running into situations and I’m now recognizing God’s Voice. I am now becoming aware of all the past and present incidents that are now converging, strengthening my conviction.

And you know what? I can actually see an end vision of where this gift will take me, how it will look and how ALL of the past decisions I’ve made are working together to make it all come together. I have so much faith this is the direction I’m supposed to be going. I’ve had doubts about the process and I'm sure they will continue to come but I BELIEVE in the RESULTS!!

I'm excited in this. And as I solidify my processes, I will eventually offer free initial consults. Watch for the offers here. Peace!

Could This Be It??

Today I went to my local vision store to pick up my new glasses and when I walked in, the doctor asked one of the assistants to fit me. When she turned around and saw me, she exclaimed, “Trena!” ...lol...No, I’m not a local celebrity, heavens no, but this lady and I had spoken before, when I’d gone in to have the glasses ordered. During that visit, she’d asked me what I did since I’d declared I was working from home that day. I explained I was working from home from my main job but I also was an event planner. She got excited because, come to find out, she used to plan events herself a few years ago! Well, we chatted a little more that day, ending with me encouraging her to consider pursuing what she felt was her gift once again.

So, today when she saw me, she was very excited to tell me the string of events that had happened since our last conversation. She’d prayed about it and after speaking with her spiritual advisor at her church, she decided to go back to living in her gift! By the way, she makes chocolate buttercream candies and I must say, I would love to sample some of her wares!! :-)

Needless to say, I was very excited for her and we chatted about it for a little bit more. She gave me her phone number and other contact information, making me promise I’ll get in touch with her. And I will. But…

Here’s the thing…. I prayed for guidance to lead me to MY gift. And yeah, my first thought was to question why I was able to guide others to THEIR solutions but had to wait for my answer on what MY true gift is. Then it came to me….maybe this IS my answer. Maybe my gift is to help others progress in their lives.

Interesting, huh?

And to Think, It's Only Mid Day...

After almost 5 years of being divorced, I’m still working on this thing, trying to get the strings completely untied. Today, while in the bank using the free signature guarantee service, the person who helped me casually asked me about my process. The one thing I had to offer her was, “Don’t worry about being nice and fair just to get through the process, be SMART first!” She thanked me and went on to share her experience. Although hers was a break from a long engagement, she felt she was still being taken through unnecessary processes to equally split what they’d grown together.

I could tell she wanted to talk more and I was moved to share a little bit more. I explained to her why I’d said what I said. During my divorce, when I could have taken EVERYTHING, I chose to be “fair”…more than fair honestly because I gave up so much more than I probably should have, to include the family home. My lawyer advised me I could have it easily…but I didn’t want it; I felt it was too large for me and my girls. And besides, I wanted to start anew! I wanted to begin the long needed process of finding out exactly who TRENA was/is…and the journey have been AMAZING but that is another story!

I could tell the teller needed more and without a clue to what she needed, I just followed my feelings… “When it comes to infidelity, if he comes to you with his confession, then he may truly be remorseful and ashamed of what he’s done; you may have a chance to fix the relationship if you both are willing. However, if YOU find out and he continues to deny it, then he’s probably not ashamed or sorry, he’s only upset that he got caught.” She confirmed my suspicions, admitting that’s exactly what she was dealing with.

She told me she had to deal with him TODAY and was so glad I’d come in; she was apprehensive about the emotions she felt would surface once face-to-face with him again. I said to her, “What you felt, what he made you feel, was the fantasy of the man for you. He only pretended to have those qualities. So when you look at him, know that he was only the vehicle that brought your ideal of your man to light…he’s NOT that man. And it’s ok to feel sad, because the relationship is worth grieving but don’t let those emotions make you outthink your head.”

The man for her is out there, she’s a beautiful woman who now has an idea of how “The One” should be (and NOT be!). I’m sure she’ll be just fine. To think, I was turned down by two places I thought would be able to help me with my paperwork. Turns out, I needed to be turned down so that I could go into that particular bank, with that particular teller, at that particular time.

Random Connections

I remember a phone call I received a few years ago while working at the U.S. Mint. *Did you know folks who collect coins are called “numismatists”? That was one of the first things I learned there…lol. Well, I received a phone call from this obviously distressed, elderly numismatist, complaining about some coins he hadn’t received. The older gentleman was very irate and as much as I tried to help him with his situation, he refused to accept what I was saying. So, I just let him talk ….

Now, in the customer service arena, our instructions were to try to diffuse any confrontation so we were allowed the time needed to make this happen. This particular call lasted just over 1.5 hours. Eventually, the older gentleman got around to asking me more personal questions and telling me about his life. I answered his questions, as random as they were, and he eventually got around to talking about his living arrangements and the conditions he was living under. Now, I’d realized a little early on this man may have, at minimum, some mild mental issues when he begin telling my all about the antics of his white pet squirrel, who he kept in a birdcage. (I still think, somewhere out there, there’s a dead squirrel in an old man’s apartment!).

The “mild mental issues” suspicions kind of grew when he proceeded to tell me about the people who were watching him through his wall and were sending micro-electronic mind waves through his head every other night. I continued to actively listen to his stories and he finally asked me what race I was. I laughed and asked him what race did he think I was? He said, “You sound like a black gal” (yeah, he said “gal”) and he then asked me what did I think he looked like and I told him he sounded like an old(er) white man and he confirmed my guess and we both had a chuckle.

Within those next few moments, he told me how much he’d enjoyed talking to me, how his family never came to visit him, and his plans on how hw would prevent the “others” from attacking his mind-waves. He also told me he was going in for surgery the upcoming week and how nervous he was about it. I told him I would call him back to check on him the day after the surgery was due. He appreciated that and I did call him back.

This time the conversation was much briefer; about 5 minutes, but he told me he appreciated me reaching back out to him. I told him to call me anytime he needed to and he said he would. I never heard from him again. I’m praying he just never needed to.

Sometimes complaints, harsh words, prolonged disagreements are the only way some folks can get “connections” to the rest of the world.

Be kind when you can.

Waiting ...In Faith

Yesterday I read an article titled “3 Things to Do When You Aren’t Sure Which Direction To Go”, written by Rochelle Inglis. To paraphrase, the article says, if what you are doing isn’t free of confusion, it’s probably a sign you’re not doing what God has put in your heart to do.

The three things “to do” were:

1. Ask for wisdom - When asking for wisdom, do so in faith.
2. Write it down – Once you receive the answer, write it down for future reference.
3. Do something – Once you receive the answer, act on it!

I’m sharing this because I’ve found myself in this confused state a lot lately. I have an event planning business, but there are times I question if that is my true calling. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love the creativity of the business, creating events and items that folks fall in love with and feel special about. But there are times I feel convinced I’m supposed to be doing something else. And I was told by a wise friend, just because you can do it, doesn't mean that's what you're supposed to do!

So, I prayed about it ...IN FAITH ...and am waiting on God’s direction. Maybe it is indeed the planning business…maybe it’s not. All I know is, I continue to get these amazing ideas reeling through my head and my desire to figure it out has far exceeded my point of discovery on my own. I do know once you open yourself up to the Universe, things have a way of coming to you. So, I’m open…and I’m waiting…in faith. ;-)

Just a tid bit...

I talked to God and prayed for a paced growth in my gift, one I can handle without spooking myself out or being spooked out. Last night I dreamed about pets and their cages…and guess who had escaped HIS kennel this morning? Yeah…mine. I either didn’t lock his kennel like I thought I had or his partner in crime helped him unlock it. It may have been a combination of both but I dreamed there was assistance.

Anyone else’s pet “escape” in some form or another? ..lol…little rascals.

The Passive Thug

It's 6:50a and I'm here slightly pissed at a somewhat popular "scholar" passively attacking another popular man's position on Facebook. ("Popular" - having a larger following). I've watched this man and his posts and it's always the same...never coming right out to voice his feelings, just hinting at it so others can "fight the fight" for him. He stacks the wood in a neat little pile and then casually hands out flames to the easily led, so that they can attack the other dude. I call this type of person a "Passive Thug"...you initiate all of the animosity but cowardly step away so others can ignite the flame. It's shameful...cowardly and shameful.

Ok, rant over... Good morning! :-)

My New...Tattoo

After procrastinating for quite a while, I went in to get my tattoo this evening. This one makes my fourth and like all the others, it took me a minute to decide, debate with myself, and then marinate on that decision before actually going in. And finally after much dallying and delaying, I got up, dragged my daughter with me and did the darn thang!

It's a tattoo consisting of only four words... "right here, right now". It signifies an ending of putting things off and a beginning of living in the moment, in the now. Not too much worrying about yesterday or what may happen tomorrow; simply LIVING. IN. THE. NOW!

I believe when you are doing the best you can with what you have and where you are, without any ill-intent or negativity, the results will be ok. When we live in our truth and make decisions within a blanket of decency, our decisions are usually the right ones. Right here, right now….trusting with all my heart God has my back and the doors and pathways I am to follow will continue to open for me as I make my way through this journey.

Right here, right now….

Third time's the Charm...

Ok, so, for the third time, I’m changing the title of this blog. I originally used the word “empath”, I then changed it to “seer” and am now, after more research, changing it to “psychic”. This was my original thought however there are certain connotations that come with that word and I was trying to avoid them. But alas, here I am…at this word again.

It’s funny…although most folks who know me, know me, yet I still feel some type of way about actively and publically declaring this “gift”. Maybe it’s all just been a lifetime of coincidences…except I don’t really believe in coincidences. Eh… Call it what you want. At this moment, at this time, I’m calling it “Psychic”. We’ll see…

Tree Aura

Took a picture of this tree back in April (2016) and it appears as if I caught the aura of this great beauty! Just thought I'd share...

Online Dating Profiles ...and a PTP Note

Hello y’all. I pray all is well with you this morning. Me? I’m sitting here trying not to have wine as my “drink of choice” with my breakfast of toast and sausages because that seems to be the only cold drink in the fridge this morning. No worries, …I settled for a second cup of coffee. ;-)

Last night as I was perusing Facebook, I came across a post about how unoriginal some of the folks on the dating sites were…that it seemed everyone copied and paste their profiles. Being a past user of online dating, I can surely relate…after a while the profiles begin to read as if everyone were clones of everyone else. There were some that were…interesting, to say the least, but it were the few that read genuine I enjoyed reading the most.

After my divorce, I became quite the “online dating” guru, and I must say, I learned a LOT! One thing is, if you’re serious about meeting someone, be truthful. Don’t say you’re just looking for a friend when you know you’re really looking for a committed relationship. And don’t claim commitment when all you’re really just fishing for is easy booty. Trust me, there are enough of all types out there!

Analyze and realize YOUR truth! Trying to be “nice” and say all of the “right” things, don’t cut it..and this applies on and off line. Be confident in who YOU are and the right person will recognize a like soul. Now, this won’t exclude you from the f*ckboys and heifers but you will at least be giving the right one a chance to find you.
Gone now! DO be careful and safe but don’t be scurred! ..lol.. You are perfectly YOU, and that’s ALL GOOD!

**PTP Note: Last night I dreamed about a baby getting hurt by a man known by her family. I woke up and the first “news” I read is about a man who drowned his 3 month-old child. Was this indicative of the dream I had? Don’t know for sure because in my dream, although the child was hurt, she was alive.
Y’all, please be watchful of your babies and young folk…they depend on you to protect them. ALWAYS trust your intuition when it comes to the safety of children.

My Introduction... Hey y'all!

Hey y'all. How are ya? Let me introduce myself. I'm Trena....JustTrena. I've started blogs before but pretty much kept them private although I have shared them with a few people, here and there. This blog I've decided to make public; to share my thoughts in the hopes of helping, in whatever way blogging can help someone, move through this life with a little more clearance, understanding and happiness.

I started vlogging to see how that would work for me and it was ok, ...except it limited me in a sense. With editing taking more time than the actual videoing, kinda discouraged me from the consistency I wanted to maintain. *You can check'em out by searching "Just Trena" in YouTube if you're interested.

I titled this blog "Ramblings of a Part Time Psychic" because early in life, I discovered I have the ability to "see" and feel things and people. NO! Not people long gone, more along the lines of what folks call reading a person's character/situation. My mama actually called me her little psychic. ..lol..I don't necessarily claim that but there have been some interesting things I've encountered. I also like being able to provide a pathway to other folks on every day issues. Not saying I know it all...not by far, but I do alright. The "part time" comes from all the other things going on around me that I'll like to talk about here...it's not necessarily about seeing or predicting things but simply to pass on information, my opinions, my thoughts.

So, when you find yourself with a free moment, stop by and keep my company sometimes! Maybe something I say here can help you...and vice versa! ;-)